YOU HAVE MORE CONTROL THAN YOU THINK

Let’s talk brains. 

You may think your habits, reactions, or emotional struggles are just “how you are.” But science says otherwise. You can create new brain pathways. Our brain isn’t fixed; it’s flexible. Like a well-worn walking path, it changes with repeated use. The more we travel a particular thought pattern, the stronger that pathway becomes and when we practice new ways of thinking, we can create and strengthen new brain pathways. 

Translation? You are absolutely capable of change, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. We aren’t trying to eliminate anxiety. A lot of times it's a normal reaction of excitement. We want to learn how to manage it and stay in control  and change our brains for the better.

Neuroscience shows that by intentionally practicing new thought patterns, like gratitude, calm breathing or reframing failures, our brain literally rewires. New neural pathways form. Old negative pathways weaken. With time and repetition, our default responses can shift from “spiral and shut down” to “pause, reset, respond.”

Here’s what else neuroplasticity can do:

• Improve memory and focus;

• Heal from trauma;

• Rebuild self-control; and

• Even help reverse habits like alcohol addiction.

  
  

That is science that soothes your soul. My work is about strengthening your mind and getting equipped. You are preparing so that when life throws blows (and it will), you will be strong enough to not only maintain your peace but to emerge stronger.

Therapy

I’m a big believer in therapy.  After I lost Dalton, therapy guided me and provided a source of hope. I’ve worked with professionals in-person and virtually, both were valuable (shout out to Dr. Archibald at Better Help, and Life Coach Chel). Good therapy isn’t just about nodding and listening, it’s about being challenged, held accountable, and receiving homework that helps facilitate healing.

Another gem:

Dr. David Burns’ book Feeling Good introduced me to the concept of bibliotherapy, the idea that reading and applying tools from self-help books can improve your mental health as much as (or more than) medication in some cases. 

The bottom line? Your brain is changeable. Your future is flexible. Your past isn’t the boss of you! 🧠💥